
Review by Nathan Weinbender
Jonathan Demme’s “Rachel Getting Married” has so much life in it. It feels so real, so honest. As a portrait of a troubled family playing emotional pick-up sticks, it is sometimes bitterly funny and always brutally frank, and it is candid to the point that I think a lot of people will be made uncomfortable by it.
The film, written by Jenny Lumet, is more of a document than it is a story, attaining the same fly-on-the-wall authenticity that Robert Altman perfected in his work. Like real life, the movie is often messy, directionless, open-ended. It relishes minutiae, asides, overlapping dialogue; it imbeds us firmly within its universe of strange family customs and household chaos. It is brimming with characters, some of whom demand our attention and others who remain only on the periphery.
You may not appreciate Demme’s approach here—a few people at the screening I attended walked out early—and the prospect of simply watching people prepare for a wedding may not appeal to you. But I love movies like this, movies that give weight to basic human experiences, that create palpable environments and characters, that peer in on a world already in progress. It’s like eavesdropping, and it’s fascinating.
Anne Hathaway stars as Kym, a troubled young woman who, as the film opens, has been given a day pass from rehab to attend her sister Rachel’s wedding, which is being held at her childhood home in Connecticut.
Her father (Bill Irwin) is congenial to a fault—he pushes hospitality and courtesy on everybody, likely to distract himself from his past. Her mother (Debra Winger), who has divorced and re-married, is an almost ethereal presence: She tends to vaporize in and out of scenes, wearing an expression that suggests she’d rather be elsewhere.
Rachel (Rosemarie DeWitt) loves Kym desperately, but she quietly resents the fact that her sister can’t overcome her own checkered past. During the wedding party, for instance, when everyone has nothing but nice things to say to the bride and groom (Tunde Adebimpe, frontman for the rock group TV on the Radio), Kym takes the opportunity to toast and utilizes it as a way to excise her inner demons.
One of the twelve steps, she tells her nervously-shifting audience, is apology, but even as she begs forgiveness, we sense twinges of narcissism creeping through Kym’s attempts at selflessness.
The movie lingers on the minor details of the day—arguing over bridesmaid dresses, washing the dishes, determining whether or not there is enough food for the guests, the band practicing in the back yard as the tent and the folding chairs are being set up.
There are also sequences, perhaps the most effective in the film, in which Kym attends her mandatory AA meetings. Demme finds the perfect notes in these scenes—they feel uncompromisingly real.
I have read some snide comments about the film resembling a wedding video, a criticism that likely stems from Demme’s decision to use guerilla-style handheld camerawork—to be fair, it is sometimes distracting. But I have never seen a home video in which the characters are presented so nakedly before us, and I have never attended a wedding so busy, so joyful, so cathartic.
Grade: A
Directed by Jonathan Demme. Written by Jenny Lumet. Starring Anne Hathaway, Rosemarie DeWitt, Bill Irwin, Tunde Adebimpe, Mather Zickel, Anna Deavere Smith, Anisa George and Debra Winger. R; 113m.